
I’ve never re-posted something before, but it has been on my heart to re-post this. Even if you read it once… I pray it blesses you again and the Lord uses it in your life!! -K.
It is the time of year that sends single girls into a tizzy….wedding season! We hear the phrase always a bridemaid never a bride, or someday your prince will come until we nearly vomit! But my goal is not to address the well meaning people in our life, that fear we may die due to complications directly related to our singlehood! Today I wanna address you guessed it–ALL THE SINGLE LADIES, ALL THE SINGLE LADIES!!
First to give you some background, I am not perfect–shocking I know (I just heard somebody’s bubble burst). I am so sick of seeing my single friends who are young, intelligent, vibrant woman of God, lose their minds because they don’t have a man!!
Being single I have learned a few things over the years that have helped me transform from an 18 year old girl that thought she was an old maid into a 24 year old woman that realizes this is my time with my Savior, and I’m cherish every moment of it!
#1 Do you believe that God has His best for you?
He came that you might have the abundant life right?!?! (John 10:10) He has every good gift for you! Oooh wait not just everyone around you that is getting married but you as well!! He is probably in the process of making sure you get a good gift instead of a gift you have to return because it doesn’t work quite right. Wait it out–he won’t disappoint!
#2 Do you feel lonely, scared, anxious, worried, heart broken????
Hosea 2:14-20 in the Message should set you at ease:
14-15 “And now, here’s what I’m going to do:
I’m going to start all over again.
I’m taking her back out into the wilderness
where we had our first date, and I’ll court her.
I’ll give her bouquets of roses.
I’ll turn Heartbreak Valley into Acres of Hope.
She’ll respond like she did as a young girl,
those days when she was fresh out of Egypt. 16-20 “At that time”—this is God’s Message still—
“you’ll address me, ‘Dear husband!’
Never again will you address me,
‘My slave-master!’
I’ll wash your mouth out with soap,
get rid of all the dirty false-god names,
not so much as a whisper of those names again.
At the same time I’ll make a peace treaty between you
and wild animals and birds and reptiles,
And get rid of all weapons of war.
Think of it! Safe from beasts and bullies!
And then I’ll marry you for good—forever!
I’ll marry you true and proper, in love and tenderness.
Yes, I’ll marry you and neither leave you nor let you go.
You’ll know me, God, for who I really am.
#3 Return to your first love!!
Set Jesus and your relationship with Him as your top priority! This is your time to be romanced and wooed!! Through the revelation of Jesus’ love and entering into a romance with him, you set your foundation and root the core of who you are in His love. People can get creeped out by this or think that it is good in theory and not apply it, but look at this logically—He created romance—let him show you what it is all about!
Just incase you don’t know this is what Jesus thinks about you:
Song of Songs 6: 4-5
You are beautiful, my darling, as Tirzah,
lovely as Jerusalem,
majestic as troops with banners. Turn your eyes from me;
they overwhelm me.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
descending from Gilead,
#4 Become a woman worthy of a Godly husband!
A lot of times we get tired of waiting— did you every think that maybe you’re husband is getting impatient as he waits for you to become who God intended you to be? Rather than spending this time in your life moping around or sitting idly by; jump in!! How do you know that the Lord isn’t waiting for you to accomplish thing 1, 2, and 3 before meeting your spouse because they will grow and shape you into who you are?
The Lord knows your heart and will help rid of of every iniquity until you become the woman He created you to be. Proverbs 31 sets out some specific examples of what a Godly woman is, verse 30 sums it up best ”Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” All the makeup, hair products, and clothes don’t matter. You can look the part but can you play it?
#5 I’ve never missed someone so much that I have never met!!
This is true! I heard this line in a movie once, referring to wanting children and I was moved to tears because that is how I feel about my husband. I just love him already and am in his corner. I find that the times I am most lonely for Him that praying for him really helps. I struggled to pray for him for so long because I wasn’t sure the best way to because I didn’t want to pray ‘bring him now’ I wanted to pray for real needs in his life. I started praying scriptures over him, I have compiled a book of scriptures that speak blessing over his life. As always I think that it is important to remain attentive to the Holy Spirit and what He is speaking to you to pray.
#6 DO NOT under any circumstances fuel the fire!!!
Yes we all get lonely, yes we feel the need for male attention especially when we get the crazies, yes this makes can make us feel worse about being a lone. This is when we revert to praying or spending time with Jesus. THIS IS NOT THE TIME TO LOCK YOURSELF IN A ROOM AND WATCH THE NOTEBOOK UNTIL YOU CAN NO LONGER BREATHE!!!!!
#7 Know your triggers.
There are certain things that send up on a one way ticket to crazy—they are different for all of us. You need to know what yours are and avoid them. Use wisdom when faced with situations that are hard for you. Be accountable to someone about them and your plan to deal with them.
#8 Don’t engage in emotional pornography!!
Emotional what????? I have yet to find a term that describes that place all girls have in their brain other than emotional pornography. We get a case of the what if’s and it turns into us standing at the altar with the random guy in the produce section. When it is someone we know, this tends to snowball leaving us closed off in this little world that is far from reality.
As we slip into the vortex of our brain sometimes we can “forget” to live in the present. We take everyday situations and say I wish I was with my husband. Suddenly instead of enjoying a sunset with a friend you’re utterly depressed, not enjoying yourself, no fun to your friend, and lost in your brain. Hmm stealing joy–sounds like the enemy to me!
Part of living in the moment doesn’t mean attending every event, engagement, baby shower, or wedding lusting after what yours will be like. This is your loved one’s day support them, help make it a special occasion for them!
Take EVERY thought captive, and refuse to entertain even the slightest scenario, and emotional pornography will no longer have a grip on you!!
#9 Just because a guy is a Christian doesn’t make him good enough for you.
Its a little harsh but super true!! When selecting applicants for a job, they do not just automatically settle with those that have the minimum requirements and basic skill set. They wait until they are wowed and see someone that was born to do the job. Wait for the one that was born run with you!!
#10 Jesus is in the waiting.
When I came to the conclusion that Jesus was in the waiting I felt like chains had come off of me. Waiting doesn’t suck despite what we all hear from TV, movies, and annoying people. Waiting can be a great thing!! As I said earlier this is the season where you build or rebuild the core of who you are based on the foundation of God’s love. What could be better than that!?!?! It is also a great times to learn to trust, find healing for past hurt, get rid of daddy issues, deal with the things you have faced in this life, set the world on fire for Jesus, be betrothed to the one who formed your heart and is overwhelmed by your beauty.
One will say, ‘I belong to the LORD ‘;
another will call himself by the name of Jacob;
still another will write on his hand, ‘The LORD’s,’
and will take the name Israel. (Isaiah 44:5)
This is a wonderful season. I pray that we all might find these years to be our best yet. Jesus has so much for you, so much that a diamond ring cannot compare!





